School Days

School is definitely a place where youngsters learn and practice social skills. The basis for these is what they have picked up at home. If a child is used to screaming or crying or similar and their parents give them what they want, they will try these techniques at school and probably find that they don't work. As they don't understand the change in the "rules", they probably won't want to go back. More...

Family

If you could pick your own family, is the one you've got the same as the family you'd choose? Can you imagine different parents, or being an only child, or even having heaps of brothers and sisters? More...

A Guy and his Car

Some guys can become quite emotionally attached to their car (or motorbike). It's not like it can reason or respond with any emotional support or physical gratification or the like, in return is it? Or is it? More...

What's the right age to get married?

Is it better to get married while your partner is young enough to train or leave it until they are older and someone else has trained them? A happy marriage is one where you are waited on hand and foot, right? More...

Why are you in a relationship?

Sometimes it's easier to just be in a relationship that sort of works than to be single and waiting to be "found". The cycle of going places to meet someone else, and trying to talk over loud music is much harder than being in a lack lustre relationship isn't it? More...

What does the ideal family look like?

I asked a mate of mine why he got married. I then asked why he had children. His answers to both questions: 'Because it was expected of me!' Are you in charge of your own life, or living it to someone else's expectations? More...

Do cross-cultural marriages work?

If the bride or groom has been brought up in a different land and / or with different beliefs, is the marriage going to work? There may be language differences as well as pressures from distant family and friends. Will your love be enough? More...

Can you keep the "magic" alive?

So you've found the love of your life. Will it always be so magical? What are the signs that things are starting to fall apart at the seams? Will you be able to see it, or will you need a friend to tell you? More...

Are you smart enough for each other?

Someone once told me that all the women I'd been with were not very intelligent. Was the reason I chose that sort of woman so I could dominate them?

Did I make a conscious decision, or it just happened that way? More...

Good times only?

Some relationships are like some friendships? They are very much intended for only the fair-weather.

Would part-time affection and closeness be enough for you? More...

What price for affection?

If you spent all your leisure time down at the pub, would the people around you actually be friends, or just freeloaders looking for someone to buy them a drink and a smoke? More...

Don't be too zealous about telling other people how happy and contented you are - many of them will resent it!

Different generations

The generations before us grew up with different things that were important to them. More...

Meeting on-line

Is it easier to meet real people on-line, or are they just as false there as in person? More...

What kids teach us

Kid's logic is pretty straight forward. Things can be pretty simple until we learn to lie and cheat and hide our real self away from others. More...

Every single one of us is quirky in some way.

Make allowances for that in everyone you meet, and trust that they'll show you the same courtesy.

Maybe I should just get a dog?

Had a relationship or two and been hurt so bad that you think you will never mend? A dog will always think you're the greatest and make you feel like a million dollars. More...